Thursday, January 29, 2009

Men in the Know vs. Ignoramuses

Why do women react so strongly to men who expose their manifold sexual experiences in public? Mind you, for men who have learned to be successful in dealing with women articles like that one in the New York Times wasn't shocking at all. If anything, it didn't go far enough.

The reactions I have witnessed on the internet range from repeated denial to outright censorship (i.e. "flagging" blogs as violating the ToS).

The fact that women go crazy about public exposure of the true nature of female sexuality, the fickle morality of women in relationships and how easy it is for some men to discreetly enjoy porn style sex with women who seem more prudish than Mother Theresa to anyone else in their lives is telling enough.

If the the revelations about the whoring second nature of women would be a lie, or true for only a small subset of women indeed, there would not be such a strong emotional reaction.

Women realize that this is the truth. But it cannot become public knowledge. The consequences would be fatal to their need of finding a nice guy, naive Provider (in addition to the knowing bad boy Lovers whose cum they happily inhaled since their teens).

As an anonymous commenter pointed out yesterday - censorship has always been a likely consequence for men who saw behind the facade of female virtuosity:

"D.H.Lawrence, like Flaubert before him, [got censored because they] had told the truth about women when society wanted to believe a myth. He contended that a woman had a sexual appetite, and that she would cross class boundaries and defy any moral duties in order to satisfy that desire. The ideal of the virtuous woman and perfect lady was an image only."

How can women - who so often become political activists to "fight for the weak", who go Vegetarian because of the "poor animals", who join the peace corps, habitats for humanity, amnesty international be amoral?

The answer is that female ethics, just like female logic, is based on emotion. It is empathy - the shared feeling of misery that makes them do these things. When confronted with misery, women will feel for (empathize) with the weak and meager.

But when it comes to sex, women empathize with the strong (ever noticed who women will fuck the guy who does the beating, not the guy who gets beaten down?).

Women want to help suffering beings such as men who for one reason or another are on the losing end of things - but they do not want their sperm. They want the sperm of the guys on the winning side of the game.

However, women cannot accept that this knowledge gets public.

It literally is a secret (society) between them and "men in the know" - the few alpha males who just need to show up at a social gathering to induce instant wetness and helpless attempts to drag him into a bathroom for a quick load of cum.

When it comes to marriage in the sense of female monogamy, our society is simply based on a lie.

Women need men to think they are something that they aren't. Otherwise they would not be able to build the "nest" they instinctively need. Women need men to supplicate (think Taj Mahal).

Women get men to supplicate (i.e. offering resources such as money, gifts and ensuring it with the exclusivity of sexual monogamy) by seemingly offering a deal.

It is one thing for another.

Marriage in a classic sense is characterized by a contract in which men guarantee a woman access to his resources (so her kids are safe).

In return (and what used to be part of the contract in the sense of marrital duty), women offer unlimited, exclusive access to sex. Exclusive is a key word here. A sexually non-exclusive woman is worthless to a man since his instinct is to make sure that her kids are made of his prime sperm and not the fruit of another man's labor.
[Note that there used to be other things on that list such as regular, high quality food, a clean household and laundry as well someone taking care of the offspring. Needless to say that in the age of washing machines, dishwashers, maids and kindergartens these things have become obsolete.]

For many beta male providers, the marriage deal worked well for centuries (and possibly millenia), but with the newly "liberated" women in our age, the consequences are disastrous. Women do not need to marry young anymore. They do not get punished as badly as they did in The Olde Days for giving in to the temptation of a silver back showing up in her life.
[Fact: When my Dad grew up in Germany more than half a centry ago, a woman went to the wedding altar with a ring of flowers on her head. If anyone in the church knew she wasn't a virgin anymore, they would jump up and take it off her head to warn the husband. I am not saying women did not screw around at all in these times - but they sure thought twice about the risk involved.]

Whereas in the old days, a woman would get publicly ostracized for being a slut, nowadays men are supposed to accept female promiscuity (and the fact that the average attractive woman more than likley had more previous short term alpha partners than the average beta male who went from girlfriend to girlfriend) as "normal" and "modern".

Things have changed. And our society hasn't really adapted to it yet.

What men (still) have to offer:

- A LIFE
Many women have no hobbies, no career plan, or just a career and hardly anything else. Yes, they travel. But ultimately, they just end up banging dudes in other cities. Women specialize on social relationships. A man who "takes her places" is the ultimate dream. Men are supposed to be explorers, inventors, philosophers, walking encyclopedias who spice up the dull life of the average Jane with intellectual wit. Men are supposed to lead. Women like to follow (up to the point where they prefer the man to order her entree for her).

- MONEY
Many women get raised as "Daddies Little Girl", never having to worry about the material hardship that is life to anyone striving for independence. There is a period in their lifes these days where they go to college and follow up with a little work. This is typically seen as the "transition time" towards the next man in their life to pay the bills - the husband. Women rack up student loans and credit card debt during these years, knowing that chances are someone wil pay it off while she can stay at home "and take care of the kids" (i.e. going to yoga and the spa while the kindergarten and the dishwasher do the actual job of a stay-at-home mom).

- SEX
Ever been to a sex shop? How many toys are for men and how many are there for women? Women insert literally anything into themselves to get off. They are so highly sexualized, they need a regular pressure valve. Yet, masturbation is less frequent than in men. Women crave orgasms, and they can have them harder and more frequent than most guys. Make no mistake about it - a relationship provides the woman with sex. The only reason it may seem like that is what the guy gets out of it is if she is not turned on as much as she could (and would with another guy). When anonymous women will tell you things like this:

- CHILDREN
Yes, there is artifical insemnation. But ultimately, she will need a man and she wants to be picky. The reason why women "settle" is that their instinctive call for reproduction ("the biological clock") is getting too loud to be picky anymore (read this - and you'll understand...).

- COUNSELING
Women are steered by emotions. They want and need a "rock in the stormy see" on their side. When it comes to practical things, many women will adapt to a "Daddy will fix it" attitude towars their husbands. If she is single or still too busy

So - in the age of "liberated" women, where most of the "benefits" of having a wife have disappeared thanks to men being able to feed and dress themselves as well as to take care of a household - what remains what women have to offer:

- COMPANY
Buddies are much better at that. Aren't they?
Well, there is something to female company, but you can get massages at your local spa and female consoling and sympathy from your mom and female co-workers. Your wife might turn more into a buddie at some point anyways.

- SEX
You can get plenty of that for free if you are an alpha male (or learn how to feign one). Not to mention masturbation and prostitution (if you can get something out of that). And let's not forget the drying pussy effect of male commitment (aka sexless marriages) - if you really want lots and lots of hot sex, you better stay single.

- TROPHY WIFE/EYE CANDY
She will get old soon. Chances are if she is about to "settle" (read: done baging alpha guys and ready to squeeze out babies) her beauty is fading already.

- CHILDREN
At some point in your life a guy might want to create his own dynastty. We need women for that. And it is what they want the same thing. The only difference is - a woman knows the kid is hers. A man needs to trust his wife for that (nowadays paternity tests can deal with doubts; but check out the reaction if you ask for one without having hard evidence about an affair on her side).
This is wh a man who want skids becomes slut aversive. Your stone age-adapted brain tells you the more she's yours, the more likely the kids are as well.
And there is truth to that. Here is a recent conversation with a woman who slept with >15 guys in the past year:
ME: You said you cheated on your last boyfriend, yet there was no sex?
HER: Yeah, I went home with another guy. But we just kissed.
ME: So he didn't know how to push it? A nice guy? Did take your slight resistance as absolute no?
HER: *laughs* No, he wasn't a nice guy. Not at all. The truth is I never had a one night stand at that point. I was scared. If I would be in that situation again - now knowing that it can be fun and just that - I would probably act differently.
ME: So what you are saying is that if I seek a faithful woman I should seek someone who hasn't had one night stands?
HER: *smirks* I guess you're right. But good luck with that!

5 comments:

  1. For many beta male providers, the marriage deal worked well for centuries (and possibly millenia), but with the newly "liberated" women in our age, the consequences are disastrous.

    I don't see any real benefits to said deal. In exchange for working myself to death, I recieved crappy sex from an increasingly less attractive female who never loved me with little in the way of verification of paternity for children.

    I'd argue that it makes far more sense under our current system where women just finally go off and bang the alphas that they like while leaving the betas alone instead of physically and emotionally abusing them.

    What men (still) have to offer:

    Even with your list, I'd still argue that the average beta male is better satisfied with a collection of porn, cooking lessons, female Facebook friends over dealing with the responsibilities of a girlfriend and wife. why should I blow my money on trying to entertain her and prop up her lifestyle in exchange for crappy sex when I can spend it on myself? Why should I waste my time trying to fix her broken life when I can enjoy mine?

    Make no mistake about it - a relationship provides the woman with sex.

    Yes, a relationship with an alpha male. Otherwise, a beta male is the most useless form of sexual stimulation for the average female, and an hour of public radio can give a better orgasm than a uselss beta male.

    Yes, there is artifical insemnation. But ultimately, she will need a man and she wants to be picky.

    She can fuck an alpha and get top notch sperm for free. She doesn't need me except for my money, and I'd rather give a female friend periodic money to satisfy my beta provider urges than to give it to somebody who will perpertually abuse me.

    what remains what women have to offer:

    I can get female friendships from platonic relationships which thanks to alphas are in steady supply thanks to their inability to soothe their emotional desires.

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  2. The fact that women go crazy about public exposure of the true nature of female sexuality, the fickle morality of women in relationships and how easy it is for some men to discreetly enjoy porn style sex with women who seem more prudish than Mother Theresa to anyone else in their lives is telling enough.

    If the the revelations about the whoring second nature of women would be a lie, or true for only a small subset of women indeed, there would not be such a strong emotional reaction.


    One just need to look at the way women speak about sexuality to see that what eleven talks about is not far from the truth, as many women would claim. Some phrases used:

    "All men are doing it"

    Nope. The men women do are the men who are doing it. And for doing it, the other 95% men are invisible.

    "What is special about getting laid"

    For a woman getting laid is no biggie, and also she beds men for whom bedding women is no biggie, thus she projects women's experience and 5% men's experience to 100%

    "I am seeing a special man, we have no sex, but of course I am getting laid on the side, that is different"

    Again tells you that sex in a relationship is a trade. 95% of men need to trade relationships for sex.

    "You go out, you get laid, so what?"

    Tells you that your neighbourhood lady has another life, that she is not showing you... Like sex during her travels. you'd have no idea.

    "those men meant nothing"
    with
    "sex with you is emotional"

    Is a relationship situation, where the woman associates love with sex, and thus the man has to prove love in order to get laid.

    And because the men before him meant nothing, you can guess that sex was rampant and free.

    And stuff like that.

    Most of the women I have met have had way more sexual partners than most of my 95%-men friends.

    Women realize that this is the truth. But it cannot become public knowledge. The consequences would be fatal to their need of finding a nice guy, naive Provider (in addition to the knowing bad boy Lovers whose cum they happily inhaled since their teens).

    Even with the existence of the knowledge, most men have lived in such a scarcity that the knowledge will be dismissed as "not all are like that".

    These men will try to shame me, and even attack me if I am talking about the nature of women ("Man you are angry", "Dude, not all are like that", "Shut up", "You are negative man", "I dont want to listen to your bullshit") (funnily, my sexual life is a few orders better in quality and quantity) , and then be capt'n save a ho to the first girl who managed to keep her legs closed for three dates.

    Now, would I know if these girls banged a few dudes in the toilet of the village bar. Probably. Would the guys believe it? Probably not.

    I will continue to dwell in my negativity about women, and while these guys run around thinking the ladies are angels, I will be enjoying the dark side of the same angels, until some dude comes and rescues her from her chosen "misery with the man who does not commit"....

    Whereas in the old days, a woman would get publicly ostracized for being a slut, nowadays men are supposed to accept female promiscuity (and the fact that the average attractive woman more than likley had more previous short term alpha partners than the average beta male who went from girlfriend to girlfriend) as "normal" and "modern".

    There is a heavy brainwashing going on.

    The main topics are these:

    - all girls are doing' it
    - all guys are doin' it, if you are not it is you fault
    - girls who are not doin' it are freaks
    - doin' it without love means nothing, so keep on doin' it
    - after she has been doin' it with the sports teams of the town including the boccia team, she chose you for the meaningful part, so be honored
    - after he has been doin' it, now it is meaningful with you, so now you need to value something that was meaningless before as something that is life's meaning.

    The exact playscript is being put forward in the movie "Zack and Miri Make a P."

    the girl ,running around like, "I've been doin' it, I've been doin' it", and the guy who cries "I don't care if you've been doin' it for 20 years with everyone but meeeeeee"

    Effing pathetic,

    But also an effing effective propaganda on men. Evil.

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  3. Brutally written but true every word.

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