Monday, March 30, 2009

Sex sells

It's not Fool's Day yet, so you still can trust the oddities reported in the media. Check out this story in a local German newspaper. Make sure you read it all the way to the end. All the way. It gets better and better.

Go and read it first, because I will spoil it here. My prose is less entertaining. The punch line is what I am after:

So basically, a guy paid his neighbor to impregnate is wife. That sounds bizarre, but there actually are many men out there who got beta'ed down so much that they started enjoying their misery. The result is a "cuckold fetish" - a hard one to explain to any evolutionary biologist since all the explanation that work for priests and homosexuality fail when a guy monopolizes a woman just to make sure that he will not pass his genes on to the next generation.

But what I am getting at is not that a guy asked another dude to bang his wife (72 times!). I am not even impressed by the fact that he paid the other man for doing it (I would not be surprised if he watched and it turned him on - he has an omega status fetish).

What I am getting at is that the alleged alpha who got hired to "bang my wife" got cuckolded by his wife as well. Surprised? What a coincidence? What are the odds?

Well, the odds are actually high. And that is why this story is not that surprising (yet somewhat amusing).

This leads me to the following: If wives really "only" cheat 50-60% of times, how come the paternity fraud rate is so high for the general population (an over and over confirmed estimate of 10%)?

How can women get impregnated so poorly by their actual husbands, and so readily by the "few" times they had an itch for strange?

The answer is clear to any guy who's got some game (and especially so if that wasn't always the case). Women go crazy when there is alpha sperm at stake (ever heard of "birth control sabotage"? You are a tool if you believe that is a masculine idea).

So, her craving for a "great guy's" sperm and her craving for a "good guy's" money, affection and emotional security creates an interesting mix of selective birth control (a lot of it unconsciously - see first chapters in "Sperm Wars").

Here is a fun little game to make use of this female instinct. It is called:

Test your alpha status by pretending the condom broke.

If she freaks out, and runs for the morning after pill/ Plan B - you clearly are in her boyfriend category. If she is your wife, test your kids with a battery of DNA kits.

If she tries to bareback you while you are asleep - congratulations. You are a stud. Your problem will be disposing the condoms properly, so she can't access your fertility while you take a leak. Chances are she is married, and hasn't told you yet.

6 comments:

  1. This leads me to the following: If wives really "only" cheat 50-60% of times, how come the paternity fraud rate is so high for the general population (an over and over confirmed estimate of 10%)?

    I always had a different approach...

    If the estimate of cuckolding is at 10%, and not every bang results in a baby, then the cheating rate must be way higher...

    Same result tho...

    What I am getting at is that the alleged alpha who got hired to "bang my wife" got cuckolded by his wife as well. Surprised? What a coincidence? What are the odds?

    Well, the odds are actually high. And that is why this story is not that surprising (yet somewhat amusing).


    Simple as this.

    Two biker thugs. Same attractiveness.

    One marries a woman.

    Now wife sees husband biker thug as lower status than the bachelor biker thug.

    Nothing changed except husband committed.

    Very interesting dynamics.

    Bachelor biker thug now symbolizes excitement, status etc = Better gene.

    Wedding cake = kills her sex drive

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  2. If the estimate of cuckolding is at 10%, and not every bang results in a baby, then the cheating rate must be way higher...

    z.g., you know I agree with you. What I was referring to is the number stated in the article on paternity fraud I linked to: "Between 30 and 50 per cent of women cheat on their partners, compared with 50 to 80 per cent of men, according to Dr. Judith Eve Lipton ... Other statistics place this number at approximately equal for the two sexes, at approximately 60%"

    Surveys are b.s. when it comes to moral questions. That's why the numbers diverge so much.

    Social expectancy bias:
    Men tend to over-report (i.e. make up) sexual encounters due to the humiliation that comes with admitting actual virginity etc. Women, on the other hand are so programmed to adhere to the "good girl" frame in public (anti slut defense) that they will downplay (outright lie) about their sexual escapades.

    The actual numbers for infidelity I believe are >90% for married women (since very unattractive women have a hard time finding a mate in the first place), and >40% for married men.

    Most guys don't even get a chance. They lack the ability to approach women, and they will never get approached (the reason the number of cheating men is not as low as 10-20% are hookers).

    Women, on the other hand, are always tempted. Plus, their sexual program is to go astray the moment they have a made nest to lay eggs in.


    Wedding cake = kills her sex drive
    I would correct that to:

    Wedding cake = kills her desire for the husband

    Her sex drive will still be up, or even increase. It's just that she now lusts other men (even more)

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  3. Again, this supports my entire theory that women only crave and desire alpha males. It's pretty much pointless for a beta to bother with women in any sexual fashion...

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  4. I love this blog! Just found it through Roissy's.

    "It's pretty much pointless for a beta to bother with women in any sexual fashion..." -DA

    I also subscribe to the theory that women only crave and desire alpha males and yet come to the exact opposite conclusion: that it's imperative that you bother - it's one of your missions in life as a man.

    Your hidden assumption: 'alpha' and 'beta' are fixed and innate traits. Seems this is worth questioning.


    -Comment Ninja

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  5. Comment Ninja said...

    I love this blog! Just found it through Roissy's.

    I am also a big fan, and this guy has taught me a lot. Things I knew but things I was told were wrong.

    Also check out Stage Two. Excellent theories and explanations.

    Your hidden assumption: 'alpha' and 'beta' are fixed and innate traits. Seems this is worth questioning.

    The thing is, there are a few behavioral switches in women's heads that can be easily manipulated that once you get in the sights of the girl that you can make her think of you as an alpha.

    Same goes on with an alpha with a heart. Many times this heart is taken as a sign of weakness, rather than choice.

    If you want to get laid, first you need to understand why the behavioral switches work. Once you know how they work, it is easy to implement them, overriding your xx years of brainwashing.

    Women have pretty much no defense against displayed alpha behavior in the short term.

    If she sees through that in the long term, the way you leave the scene, your pride intact, knowing you have gotten what you want, and unaffected by by that dump, uncaring, you will slowly gain these traits as ingrained rather than consciously implemented.

    Women are emotional. Few touches on the right buttons, and you are alpha.

    Reason why alcohol works so well with betas. Alcohol makes your judgement impair, and the next glass of beer gets more important than the reaction of the girl you had the courage to talk to...

    "Oh, he likes beer more than me... Ooooho he must be a badass in sheep's clothing...."

    The more I see, the more I laugh.

    to 11 minutes

    True, I should have mentioned "kills her sex drive for the husband"... Thought it was clear. Did not think about the uninitiated..

    I agree to your assupmtion that hookers are the numbers that increase the male percentage, and if 60% women are cheating, that would correspond to 10-20% men cheating without hookers. (10% false paternity, kind a hints at 60% cheating women, I want to repeat)

    And also the number of partners the women cheat with could be higher than the partners men cheat with, basically because it is harder to find easy lays for men than it is for women,

    One thing I want to point out is the curtain "women cheat because they feel emotionally neglected" and "for women, sex is emotional"....

    Experience has shown me that these lies (wanted to say misdirection) are there to keep us men in line, and keep women on the pedestal, and keep us investing in their sexuality.

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  6. so basically theres no hope for monogamy? i mean, no matter how alpha, indifferent, exciting, good in bed you are she will most probably cheat? im not sure about that... at least thats what i want to believe.

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