Thursday, March 19, 2009

Why women keep coming back to the guys who don't give them the affection (they say) they want

"Oh, he treats me with respect,
He says he loves me all the time,
He calls me 15 times a day,
He likes to make sure that im fine,
You know I've never met a man,
Whose made me feel quite so secure,
He's not like all them other boys,
They're so dumb and immature.

There's just one thing,
That's getting in the way,
When we go up to bed your just no good,
its such a shame!"

[Lily Allen - Not fair]


Popular songs are about topics that people can relate to; and many women can relate to this.

What they don't get is that it is not the guy's bedroom skills. The lyrics really should go:

When we go up to bed it is just no good

The reason it sex with such a guy sucks for the woman is not always premature ejaculation or his <6'er. She doesn't get wet for all the reasons she says she likes in him.

The sex is bad because he says he loves her all the time and calls 15 times a day (he is insecure and needy; he is emotionally overwhelmed like a woman and not in charge of his feelings like a man).

This behavior reeks of low social status. The guy communicates that he
a) has a hard time getting other women (hence he is clingy)
b) he did not choose her for what she is, but because of a)

And that is not really what a woman wants.

A woman wants a guys who
c) could fuck any woman any time
d) still just goes (and feels) for her

A woman wants a guy to care and call and profess love, but from a position of strength.

The reason women get frustrated is that guys who are at the c) stage, simply do not offer d)

So, after being trapped with c) guys for a while, women will start to go for b) guys. Then they finally get all the things that come with d), yet the sex will be terrible because of a).

In the Olde Thymes, women were assigned to a man. They were happy with what they got. If you never shoot heroine, you will never get hooked. A live without being on hooked on H can be a very happy life.

A modern woman's dilemma is that she will make her first (and ample) sexual experiences with (quite a few) guys who have no problem attracting women. The sex will be awesome. As they age, and get exceedingly frustrated by their lack of romance, commitment and child bearing plans (as well as getting exceedingly unattractive to men with options), they will start to gravitate towards men with low or no options. And this is where their complaints change from "he's not paying enough attention" to "he sucks in bed". I ask you this - which one is worse?
(Hint: The answer to that question can be found in US statistics on divorce and extramarital coupling:

Percentage of marriages that end in divorce in America: 53%

Percentage of "arranged marriages" (where parents pick their sons or daughters spouses) that end in divorce: 3%)

7 comments:

  1. As they age, and get exceedingly frustrated by their lack of romance, commitment and child bearing plans (as well as getting exceedingly unattractive to men with options), they will start to gravitate towards men with low or no options. And this is where their complaints change from "he's not paying enough attention" to "he sucks in bed".

    Hence why I will always believe until the bitter end that women are incapable of loving beta males when there's a choice. Unless you can master game, it makes far more sense as a beta to simply drop out of the relationship market. Of course, you'll illustrate that arranged marriage has low divorce rates, but as in modern Western society, most beta males are going to get an ugly girl.

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    1. First off this game thing is bs. And honestly when a woman spends time will see thru your insecure ass and depending on your beta definition ofcourse they can

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  2. I will always believe until the bitter end that women are incapable of loving beta males when there's a choice.
    They do love them. They just don't get wet for them. There is a difference between making love and getting fucked silly. Anyone can do the former, but women feel incomplete without the latter.

    Unless you can master game, it makes far more sense as a beta to simply drop out of the relationship market.
    Dropping out of the "relationship market" seems the best option for any man, beta or not. See today's post.

    Of course, you'll illustrate that arranged marriage has low divorce rates, but as in modern Western society, most beta males are going to get an ugly girl.
    As women grow older, they get increasingly ugly. So, any man hanging around for too long will end up with an ugly girl

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  3. They do love them. They just don't get wet for them. There is a difference between making love and getting fucked silly. Anyone can do the former, but women feel incomplete without the latter.

    Well, that's the problem. What's the point of long-term relationship love without the sex, especially in the context of a marriage? I can eek out a fraction of the love in a platonic relationship, but with none of the responsibility of a real long-term relationship with a significant other.

    So, any man hanging around for too long will end up with an ugly girl

    Yes, but beta males get the ugly girls when they're already ugly and young. Alpha males get to have sex with women when they're still beautiful and youthful.

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  4. Welcome back, 11.

    The reason women get frustrated is that guys who are at the c) stage, simply do not offer d)

    I was a guy who was a c. Met that girl who made me want to stop, so I gave her d. As I will reply to one of you other posts, that was the mistake, because as soon as I gave her d, in her eyes I lost my power of being c and was lowered to an a,b.

    More on this later.

    So, after being trapped with c) guys for a while, women will start to go for b) guys. Then they finally get all the things that come with d), yet the sex will be terrible because of a).

    In her head, getting d from a c is a different universe fro getting d from an a, b. And to say the truth, it is different, but the mere fact that committing turns you from a d to a,b makes it necessary to disregard almost everything they say.

    In the Olde Thymes, women were assigned to a man. They were happy with what they got. If you never shoot heroine, you will never get hooked.

    A modern woman's dilemma is that she will make her first (and ample) sexual experiences with (quite a few) guys who have no problem attracting women. The sex will be awesome.


    your second paragraph is explained in your first, as follows:

    Sex with an c-guy is like heroine. And the c guy gices the sex for free, heroine for free. the thing is, he will not give commitment. that is something women miss: A woman able to have sex with a c does not mean she is able to get a relationship out of c. They think they can.

    So free heroine shots get in their head as free for life stronger heroine shots (relationship). Even when they lose their youth etc.

    When they are forced to settle for a,b, it is not free heroine anymore, the ladies feel like they are prostituting themselves to the a,b guys for heroine.

    (I have used three different definitions for heroine, as for women, sex with c, sex with a,b, relatiosnhip with c, relationship with a,b, are all some form of heroin)
    what happens is that

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