Monday, February 15, 2010

Women do not care about what a man looks like

In the whole of Germany, there is just one professor of psychology left who teaches and defends Freud's Psychoanalysis. The poor guy, last of his kind, is the target of frequent criticism and laughter from his academic colleagues. How come this "school" has lost most of its appeal to professional researchers of the mind? Did it not dominate psychology to the extent that it almost was synonymous with it for a while? One of my previous mentors once gave me an answer to both these questions with a bon mot that stuck to my mind:

"Freud's thinking became so successful because he gives us the illusion that we are complicated little beings. And nobody wants to be told that they are simple minded."

We are not just surprised each time somebody reveals our ways as steered by an invisible but primitive force, we outright hate it. And this is particularly true when it comes to our love life.

Yet, the force is too strong to deny. Society has come to terms with the fact that male taste in women is nothing but a base instinct craving signs of health and high fertility: youth, beauty, slim bodies, buxom breasts, and tight labia.

The one and only thing that men want from a woman is the prospect of healthy offspring.

Thus, magazines and billboards feature girl of this kind and not old post-menaupsal women in order to entice the male mind. If anything, we joke about this one dimensionality of the male mate preference.

For some reason, however, there is a lot of resistance each time someone points out that women are not any more complex either. Worse than that, by lacking a proper understanding of the one and only factor that women seek in a mate, both genders hurt themselves in the love seeking process: women find themselves in bed with guys "who are not even their type", while many men try to improve their attractiveness in the most ineffective ways.

The one and only thing that women want from a man is (the prospect of) high status.

Men and women alike want "sexy kids", but we have different strategies to achieve that. And for women, all that counts is a man's ability to influence things for the better. "Status" is something a man does. It is the magic of influence that allows some men to get more out of life, and women know that on an instinctual level.

But what does that mean on a practical level?

What a man looks like does not matter. All that matter is his appearance.

In other words, women do the exact opposite of men when it comes to select people for sex. Men care for the physical attributes of a women, women care for the non-physical attributes that men radiate in their behavior.

But what about things like muscularity and height (as some of you have noted dutifully)? Don't they count?

Well, yes and no.

Women prefer taller (and more muscular) men. That is true.
But that does not mean that they are attracted to a man's height!

The problem is that taller (and more muscular) men tend to get something from all of us that shorter men don't get: high social status. And it is this tight correlation between height and other people's respect that makes things confusing.

To find out whether women are attracted to a man's looks (such as height) or his social status, one thus needs to look at cases where the two are dissociated.

And the answer is appalling:
As a man, you can literally look like a gnome and score girls that make most men salivate.

What about the opposite? Just go to a club and compare the insecure guys, liquid courage in front of chest to the few men who actually talk with women. Does their tallness matter?

Women are not attracted to tall men. They are attracted to high status males. It just happens to be that their chances of a guys being of high status are disproportionately increased if the guy is tall. Thus, if women are robbed of the means of evaluating a man's high status (by checking his body language and response to shit tests), they will default to anything that correlates with these things. This is why showing photographs of guys is such a poor way to evaluate female mate preference.

As a guy, you can train yourself by trying to see the world through a woman's eyes. Judging each person's status, as communicated by body language, at any moment in time will give you the power of perfect predictability of which men are seen as attractive by female consensus. It will reveal to you what it is in you that women respond to positively as well. For women, realizing the above is not quite as hard as for men, but still helpful when seeking an interesting man.  
Mankind's success and doom relies on how well we understand our own motives and actions. Gnotis auton!


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  2. so, the world seems to be in perfect balance - women need influential midgets, while men need pretty future ex girlfriends.

    //I like it, how I say "man's looks matter", and you say "to a woman, man's looks do not matter". it's like we have this perfect consensus :)

  3. Very interesting.

    As a short guy, I've noticed something peculiar about women. Taller women seem to have less hang-ups about short guys.

    It's the short or below average heighted women who are the most fixated with a man's height. It's as if they reflect their own insecurities on to the male physique.

    1. I noticed that too, that's very interesting. I am short too but good looking, thanks for sharing, you just made my day.

    2. Men telling women that we do not care about looks, despite all evidence to the contrary, is very similar to fat women saying that "real men like curves." I am a woman, and I'll be the first to admit that looks are VERY important to me. I cannot be happy with a man that I am not attracted to. I tried. It doesn't work.

    3. Don't think you get the article at all...... he's saying that women are attracted to status more than physical attributes. Attraction is attraction regardless of what it is that sparks it. He is not saying women go with men they are not attracted to physically if they are high status, he is saying women are attracted to high status over looks, meaning if you are high status and average looking women will still find you attractive.

  4. excellent, along with the "Alpha spark" post.
    This is the Game - figuring out and internalizing high-status behaviors. I think I got a knack of it personally (yes, thanks for listing Impro), but a post on it would be nice.

  5. Phoenixism - indeed.. at 5'8, which isn't that short, but not at the "attractive by default" level, I have the same experience. I've been with unusally high number (at least a third) of same as me or taller women and I get hardest time attracting really short ones. Go figure.

  6. "so, the world seems to be in perfect balance - women need influential midgets, while men need pretty future ex girlfriends."

    Nope. The world is in imbalance, because there are too few high status guys, midget or not, for too many pretty future ex girlfriends.

    "I like it, how I say "man's looks matter", and you say "to a woman, man's looks do not matter"

    Now I will sound like your husband of 20 years, but if I may remind you: That's not what you said. You said: "ladies can overlook the looks" and "it [is] a person's appearance that matter to ... women"

  7. I used to have a fixation about dating men taller than myself. At 5'9", I'm the shortest person in my family, my father hitting around 6'5", my grandfathers running about 6'3"-4". Aunt was 6'2", little sister is pushing 6'... you just get incredibly used to being surrounded by tall people, start expecting it in your partners.

    Fortunately, I got over the height fixation. It's all about posture and walk, my key signs of status, followed up by shoe choice (which has a logic-base, not a fashion one).

    Good explanation of the height/high status correlation. I was aware of greater career success for males being correlated by height, but I did not take that the extra step into the field of sexuality.

  8. Phoenixism, I have to agree. I barely scrape average, and the guys I compete with on my course for the women have at least 4 inches of height on me (plus 3 years of age [graduate students] and subsequent gym time - but it goes to show how powerful game is)
    The girls I've had to use the least effort to win over (ie shit tests, probes for masculine features) have been tall girls. Probably also helps that it alters my stance (as I instinctively 'man up' to appear bigger) and I can neg them/DHV them.

  9. An old seduction trick: if she says she has a certain "type" which is physical-- tall, black, muscular, whatever-- then that's the *surface* desire. Find out what the *deep* desire is underneath it. Tall = Authority. Black = Forbidden thrill. Muscular = Dominant, intimidating. Etc.

  10. They actually do care about looks. They would rather have a one night stand with a hot pool boy than some random old millioanre. They will also have the kid with pool boy (better genes) and have the millionare fat man pay for it.

    1. Perfectly said.

    2. I believe you have no idea who Hugh Heffner, Donald Trump, Flavio Briatore are

  11. Not that meaningful to say women don't care what men look like. It's like saying that men don't care about women's ass and boobs, they actually care about their fertility and health. Doesn't add much to bring up the word "care".

  12. 11 minutes, obviously, I don't know the difference between the two (looks and appearance) (aren't these two the same? i don't mean that I need a guy with blue eyes, but I would rather if his eyebrows wouldn't take up half of the face. i do have preferences, but "the whole exterior/picture" matters), or you're just picking at the words.

  13. Phoenixism, short women are the most desirable, so they go with the most desirable men (tall men). Tall women have to make compromise, so they accept to date short men. Short women are not insecure, stop dreaming.

    1. lol... you're a short woman right? Wow...

    2. In reality, all women exist in various states of insecurity. It's very, VERY easy for a handsome, high status guy to absolutely obliterate a girl's self esteem. I've seen it happen time and time again to girls who label themselves as being "confident", then wallow around for weeks on end thinking that they're not pretty enough

  14. reminds me of the difference between mean values and there's another term for it.
    ie: girls say they like tall men, what they actually like is feeling safe with a man of larger phys. size. girls say they like a man with a career, they seek the comfort and stability it provides. the value behind the attribute is the key to understanding.

  15. Great post, but you know people will always prefer their illusion that they are unique. I'm amused and yet tired of hearing 'not all women' fall for game, or 'good girls' aren't attracted to guys who date lots of women.

  16. Nice work.

    I'm a tall guy (6'4"), and I was always confused at the notion that women naturally responded to tall men. Certainly when I was young and insecure they didn't. When I tightened up my game, I started doing very well with women, which was usually attributed to height, etc. But as I would get lax, and my game would get sloppy, voila, no attraction out there. So much for height.

  17. Society has come to terms with the fact that male taste in women is nothing but a base instinct craving signs of health and high fertility: youth, beauty, slim bodies, buxom breasts, and tight labia.

    Just because you don't care about a woman's personality doesn't mean nobody else does.

    The one and only thing that men want from a woman is the prospect of healthy offspring.

    I don't even want children.

    Great post, but you know people will always prefer their illusion that they are unique. I'm amused and yet tired of hearing 'not all women' fall for game, or 'good girls' aren't attracted to guys who date lots of women.

    You're amused and yet tired of hearing irrefutable facts? That sounds worrying, maybe you should seek professional help.

  18. "Looks don't matter" is a pretty lie told by women who want to get their hooks into rich old men. It is further perpetuated by average guys who don't want to be bothered with dieting and going to the gym.

  19. @anonymous 3:15.
    Totally agree.

  20. 11 minutes, obviously, I don't know the difference between the two (looks and appearance)
    "Looks" is defined as the whole of all bodily features. It is what a man is born with and women are often surprised in how much the men they end up with lack in that department.

    "Appearance" is defined by a man's posture, body language, even clothing. It closely resembles "status" as in what a man represents. If a man's appearance signals that he is a weak pushover, no normal woman would ever get happily on her knees to make him happy.

    Tall women have to make compromise, so they accept to date short men.
    Compelling possibility.
    I have serious doubts, however, that women ever "compromise" when it comes to sex. There are too many men out there who never get a piece of the cake. Most women agree on that one:
    No sex is better than bad sex.

    @John & Xamuel - interesting idea about women choosing "surface" traits in men with symbolic value. You got a the reference?

    I'm amused and yet tired of hearing 'not all women' fall for game, or 'good girls' aren't attracted to guys who date lots of women.
    Most of these guys will find out the hard way one day.

    But as I would get lax, and my game would get sloppy, voila, no attraction out there. So much for height.
    ... and any other feature of "looks". I frequently hang out with guys who would easily get on the cover of fitness magazines, and they have the very same experience:
    While "on nights" will give the illusion that women go after their handsomeness (and boy, do they go after them), the very same guy will not get as much as an eye contact during dreaded "off nights".

    Just because you don't care about a woman's personality doesn't mean nobody else does.
    I never said I don't. Yet I would not even touch a fat ugly old hag even if she has the greatest personality in the world. And neither would you.

    I don't even want children.
    Your unconscious doesn't care. Or did you cut off your penis?

    "Looks don't matter" is a pretty lie ... further perpetuated by average guys who don't want to be bothered with dieting and going to the gym.
    You know what gets women to swoon? Guys who know they do not need to put in an effort to get into her pants.

    Go to the gym and sweat. For your health and a longer, more energetic life. There are many good reasons. But women ain't one of them.

  21. I never said I don't.
    That is exactly what you said.

    Your unconscious doesn't care. Or did you cut off your penis?

    My "unconscious" has no say in the matter, because I very clearly do not want children.

  22. You're mixing up ultimate and proximal causes. Your Darwinian analysis deals with ultimate causes - but how do we get there? Freud dealt with mechanisms (whether accurately or inaccurately). There is no contradiction between what you said and what Freud said, as long as Freud's mechanisms don't lead to men generally preferring non-fertile women or women generally preferring low-status men.

    Clearly there are complicated mechanisms involved, because they go wrong so often (homosexuality, pedophilia, etc).

    I note that you invoke the unconscious - a concept most closely associated with Freud - when arguing with another commenter.

  23. Your Darwinian analysis deals with ultimate causes - but how do we get there?
    That's an interesting and still open question. Behavioral genetics is still in its infancy.

    I note that you invoke the unconscious - a concept most closely associated with Freud - when arguing with another commenter.
    Just because Freud coined the term (the proper translation would be "subconscious") doesn't mean one cannot investigate cognitive mechanisms that happen in the absence of awareness.

    Some scientists have tried to avoid the problem by calling it "subliminal", but that term is even more loaded with a troubled past.

  24. "...I would not even touch a fat ugly old hag even if she has the greatest personality in the world..."

    Funny, as a female I feel the exact same way about men. A guy can have the greatest personality EVER, but if he looks like a gnome I can't be attracted to him sexually.

    Looks don't matter to most women in the sense that a man doesn' have to fit a conventional attractiveness standard. Notice the movie stars women find sexy. It's not just the men who are young and hot with hard bodies.

    The women men find hot are universally young and supple with a certain look, e.g. Maxim women or playmates.

  25. It's funny to hear short (excuse me, "petite") women brag about being the "most desirable". As a 5' 9 woman with a naturally very buxom, hourglass shape figure, I haven't had many complaints about my height from either tall or short men. The only tall men whom I've seen only selecting short women are the socially awkward goober types (sorry, the more cerebral, less socially developed types).

    There is ample evolutionary evidence that men inherit their height from the *mother*, so if men desire taller offspring, that would explain both short and taller males preference or bias toward taller women.

    The taller men who've pursued me and other women of my type tend to be very secure with themselves, with no need to follow the dictates of corporate consumerism, like what the metrosexual wanna be alpha male editors of Maxim or Playboy tell them they are supposed to desire (prepubescent shaped women with fake tits and androgynous hips).

    This whole thread reminds me of being around nouveau riche people who role play what they think wealthier, privileged people do (silly conspicuous consumer crap like bathing in champagne, flashing 'bling bling' or dissing less privileged people). Sigh..........

  26. p.s from 8:06-

    I know this thread is as old as most forms of dirt.
    Everybody mates with or attempts to mate with the person who closest resembles their ideal physiological/emotional complement; their yin to yang, or vice versa.

    Human nature and the knee jerk reaction toward herd conformity is ruthlessly exploited by the cynical 1%, who make marketing decisions for the rest, who then follow along dutifully like good little consumer debt zombies from mega-mall hell.

    People who are only concerned with their image and how their status *appears* rather than the actual substance of reality deserve what they so often get; a lifetime of constipated, callow alcoholic trophy dolls, blow up dolls, rich men with bad breath, and medicated metrosexuals with spray-on tans. Poetic justice from the universe, hallelujah!

  27. p.p.s-
    oops, my bad.... meant to say "human nature and the knee jerk reaction toward her conformity *are* ruthless exploited". ARE, not "is", heh-heh......

  28. p.p.p.s-

    aw, fcuk it, sheesh..........

  29. I somewhat disagree with this article. Most of the stuff the author says is absolutely true (i.e. women loving men of status) but he downplays how much women unconsciously correlate a man's height and his looks to his status. Check out this link for instance:

    Gnotis Auton reasons that if you have enough game, then height and looks really shouldnt matter (that is, as long as you portray high enough social status). But women consciously and unconsciously assess EVERY element of a man's appearance, including his physical attributes, in order to gauge his status. Some women, by default, will not date certain men of higher than average status just because of his looks or his shorter stature, regardless of his game (I can testify on this). In other words, not every woman on the planet will sleep with you just cause you have great game. Some women (especially beautiful ones) will pick a more handsome man over you if you both have relatively the same social status as each other. Therefore, unless you are a famous celebrity or rockstar, it's unlikely that very beautiful women will like you just cause you exhibit confidence and are a great flirt.
    I'm just being a realist, sorry.
    PUAs don't like to admit it this though, because it doesn't sell. Telling guys that they are too ugly to get 10s and 9s HBs so they have to settle for 7s and 6s wouldn't be as appealing to all the frustrated chumps out there.

    1. >>Therefore, unless you are a famous celebrity or rockstar

      PROOF right there that the final ultimate arbiter for women is "game" since for "very beautiful women" where the ante is upped and "game" can be overlooked in favor of physical attractiveness, "game" of sufficient magnitude (rockstar/celebrity) still overrides. But for men i think that wouldn't work: An ugly female rockstar with unbelievable presence would still not override a stikingly beautiful female of no paritcular consequence (unless the male is acting out retribution impulse or similar alienating motive).

    2. C'mon. The reason women don't want such ultra short men is because they're almost a different species. No one wants higher or shorter height. We all want the same height. Someone who is compatible. We are attracted to the female equivalent of ourselves, and by ourselves I mean ourselves in our highest potential. So if you're a fat guy living in your mom's basement you are living below your potential. This is why fat people are not attracted to fat people for example. This is also the reason why many Western men are looking to the East, as even though their genes are less compatible than the Western female, the Eastern female is often living at a higher potential.

  30. So is this all an idea/assessment made by some random citizen or is their someone specifically well known that has come to this conclusion?

  31. You have a kernel of the truth here, but women do prefer men that they are physically attracted to, it's just that other qualities can outweigh, or make less important his physical appearance. You are getting a little carried away with the assumption that the physical appearance of the man is unimportant.

  32. 'women don't care about looks' = a lie created by unattractive, insecure men...

  33. The thing that women haven't worked out is that high status males make crappy partners and often poor lovers. They are too interested in their careers and find it too easy to sleep around with women who are attracted to their money or power that they will never be a truly loving faithful partner. This is the trade off some women can make. It's nothing more than prostitution. It also has much to do with the divorce rate.These guys find it easy to trade a wife in for a younger model. Result is a lot of fucked up kids.
    The thing no one has stressed is that whilst for some women this choice of a high status male is a conscious decision for many other women they don't even realise why they are so attracted to short fat rich men. Even women who are past child bearing age are susceptible.
    Perhaps women when choosing a mate should take into consideration whether the high status male is gonna stick around long enough for the children they make together to be brought up in a loving secure home. Or if she is going to be happy to screw him for every penny she can get with a divorce.

  34. actually a labia cannot be tight ahah lol. noob. labia are the outer lips, not the actual vagina. you need to read more

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  36. I think its either a play to get guys to learn "game" and spend money on self help bullshit, or to give average/ugly/short guys some kind of false hope. The truth is women do care about appearance/looks/physique, it's just that they do not care as much as we do...
    i mean, stats don't lie

  37. organized thoughts and very logical conclusions

  38. im an average woman

    most of this is totally wrong

    i like a guy with tall or average height, attractive, who has brains and isn't an asshole

    sorry :)

    you cant get away with being ugly guys. no just no.

  39. in my mind as a woman all of this is wrong.

    honestly what comes to my mind is: you're screwed if you get with a guy either way. it doesn't matter who they are. most guys are just there to get you pregnant and use you for their gains

    even if its for love
    its not worth it when you can move in with your best friend and have love
    i think i'd actually be more motivated to take care of my own appearance if i lived with my best friend because we'd compete.

    but a guy would just kill my motivation because 90% of them are self-entitled assholes

    1. Hmmm...but who is actually getting laid?

  40. No one is getting laid in our marriage. Maybe my wife is I don't know nor do I care. I have no interest in sex,love,togetherness or my wife. Its ok with me if shes getting it on the side. I had sex once and I thought it was disgusting, inhuman, pointless, disgusting and meaningless. We don't associate with each other, she has her space upstairs and I have the down stairs.

  41. I am 5'7" guy and have found many women, not all are particular about a guys height and looks. Especially online; many seem to be looking for Superman.

  42. I am a male 6'2 and gorgeous. I am better looking than 90% of ALL MALES on this earth. Guess what? women stare at me everywhere I go. In fact women of all ages look at me all the time. Men look at me constantly as well.I am beautiful and there is nothing anybody hates more. Women are as jealous as any human can be. The more beautiful the male the more women want to dent your armor. I personally feel women will fuck ANYTHING and make an excuse for why they did it! This pyscho babble shit is a joke. Women simply want to own your character! Take it from a male that knows women. I have worked in a strip club, an all ladies health club and numerous other positions. My looks are extremely intimidating and women only want to knock what they know they cannot have. I spend my life treating women as if they don't exist when I am out at a bar or in public. I have traded sex for crushing women when I roll my eyes as if to say your not even acceptable to look at me. I have a gift few men will EVER have and that is the ability to have any woman I want; yet to jerk women around as they do guys gives so much more comfort than finding out they are just another dead fish in bed that won't move their ass! Ladies I wish you ALL the deepest lonesomeness that can possible be found! I hope you all find happiness with a guy that lies to you since we all know it isn't "who" you are but "what" you are! That's sick and you all fall for it! If women did not have vaginas the world would be a better place!!!!

    1. @Anonymous poster above me:

      This article isn't saying women exclude looks, of course you're going to get noticed if you're attractive, BUT, women also find other qualities attractive as well besides looks like status, personality, confidence, etc etc.

    2. I'm 6'6" an also very good looking, not like 10/10 in the face department, but a 8/10. However at this current point looks means dick shit, I've had casual sex with a few high end women, a super model, but ultimately treated like total shit. Imagine being hated by all the other men, so much so they tried to kill me in school. I learned the hard way to NEVER get a job working with ugly slobs, they'll bully you relentlessly, an try to get you fired. Small man syndrome is every day issues you'll face. You will be approached by an endless stream of ugly bitches who will reject you viciously if you are poor or living with your mom. I started fucking with them, mapping them out, they all "project" what they expect from me, it's either Doctor or Gov person, or Actor. Without money, even looks mean nothing, in fact they will treat you like a pedophile if you are broke. Since guys know this, every other average or ugly dude tries everything to ruin my reputation or prevent me from making money. One bunch of guys started a nasty rumor I was a gay guy who raped someone at a party. They knew if I showed up, all the girls looking for casual sex would cut them off. Continues to this day, at some Hipster bar, all the hipster bitches started oogling me, so the hipster fags started really harassing me, to get me out of the bar an never come back. Game is for ugly or average guys, or good looking guys with no money. When you are rich & good looking, you can be a huge asshole an get away with it, like Dan Blizerain.

  43. This article was meant for the 1900's. Women of today want a good-looking, ambitious guy, end of story. Women want these guys because a. good-looks are a turn on and b. ambitiousness = care, a woman wants to see that you care for yourself and therefore can contribute to a life together. Looks matter yes, because we all have eyes. But not everyone is turned on by the same thing. I like guys who are my height, because they fit well against my body. On the other hand I like a guy who can be silly and playful, because... I AM! What one wants in a partner is completely up to the individual, so sitting around complaining about how you personally do not meet someone else's standards is extremely self-defeating. Find someone who suits you and only you.

    P.S if you are a guy who sits around doing nothing, never exercises, eating crap or if your a guy who's believes working up a sweat of any kind outside the bedroom is horrible, here is some advice: DO SOME SIT-UPS AND GO FOR A RUN! How many joke are made about how long women take getting ready? We take care to look nice more for ourselves more so than anyone else, because it makes us feel better. So take a hint and take care of yourself for yourself. Self confidence (not arrogance) is attractive in any human.

  44. Tall are just trying to find a way to excuse yourselves from working out.

    Yes, it's true that women care most about money when it comes to longterm relationships.
    but I doubt you alpha wannabes are seeking mongomy. You're probably seeking casual sex.

    when it comes to casual sex, looks are the only thing that matters. Look it up. There's consistent research proving this to be true.

    1. I think you forgot the fact that everyone nowadays is on some type of medication. I'm sure it clouds the judgement and gives certain people a superiority complex that makes them seek a different mate than they otherwise would.

    2. I'm only speculating. I could be wrong. But everyone is entitled to their own preferences.

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  46. We can't judge that women don't care about men or vice versa, this totally depends on bond between them and custom, cultures they follow rich people dating sites

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  50. This blog made me think of my early 20’s, as I was rejected by the foxes who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male.
    One 6’ tall girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to. I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches. She got angry with me for even asking her out and stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
    This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.
    I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”. (I am 5’8”) And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence and a tie in with this blog. No doubt all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe stable Beta male was the next best thing in their 30’s, for I certainly didn’t grow any taller and I doubt I got better looking. These women were past their prime and worried. I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years. It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife. I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age. Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them. I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier would not have given me the time of day. And even now, they may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them. I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women. Why go old, when I could go young? I was amazed how the dating game changed in my favor. And I used it to my advantage, just as women had done years earlier.
    I am now married and have 4 sons. I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored 2 US patents. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought. (Maybe due to the Alfa male fascination) So, if you find yourself in your late 20’s or early 30’s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. (This also applies to average height women, too) And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man (and Beta males) until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males (and Beta males) in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate.

  51. 1. Younger women want the best their eyes can see, same goes for boys, this is the time when both sexes are more or less equal. Once they get older and go through puberty and educational institutions and learn more of their cultural environment, women sense, desire, and pursue men with status, but not because they are attracted to status for the security of it, this goes further than relying on a man for that security, since the dawn of times women were pursuing men with status because this gave them status as well, sorry for uneventful explanation but it is that simple. We live in a man's world, and to take a bite from its "riches" you have to deal with men. Similar thing actually happens to men as well when they search for jobs with the intention to progress through ranks and share the company's status. And to choose the right partner your brain creates all kinds of fables which are in many cases are superfluous and simply not true.
    A height is just a height, yes you can pick things from higher shelves, you can see what is going on in the crowds, so being taller is better than being shorter? No, as a tall guy I can tell you there is a lot of cons in being tall. And conversely the are a lot of pros in being short, so my thinking is that taller people are considered more attractive to both sexes because of the inferiority complex which pervades our subconscious.

    This of course is but a ripple on the surface of the ambiguity which our controlling brains have created for us. We dwell in oh such a fantasy full of repressed trauma and desires. We think we do the best we can as a society, but all that unnecessary pain and for what purpose... what purpose...

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  55. I couldn’t help but laugh at your ascertain that women are not attracted to men of height. You write,
    “Women prefer taller (and more muscular) men. That is true.
    But that does not mean that they are attracted to a man's height!
    Women are not attracted to tall men. They are attracted to high status males.”

    I will agree with women are attracted to men of high status, but other than that your entire article is pure fantasy. All one need to do is visit any on-line dating site and you will easily find numerous ads from women demanding men to be a certain height before they will ever communicate with them. Your next magical story will be you will be telling me that women prefer nice guys over bad boys.

    I had been divorced for about 2 years after being married for 10. I was a member of President’s and First Lady’s Health Club, and I decided to get back into shape. I worked out on certain days and times. Over the months, I recognized people who were on the same work-out schedule as me. I noticed one girl who was working out on the same days and times I was. She was in her late 20’s, about 5 foot 9 or 10”. She was in great shape and pretty.

    One day she was working out at a machine about 30 feet from me. There was no one around, so we could talk in private. I thought to myself, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained”, so walked over to her to ask her out. I said these exact words,“ I have seen you work out over the last few months, and you are in great shape and very attractive, and I was wondering if you care to go out sometime?” This is what she said to me. “I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU CAME OVER HERE!” “I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU SAID THAT!”. She then stuck her index finger in my face and said,”I DON’T DATE SHORTER MEN. I was in a state of shock. I was trying to figure out how to save the conversion, and what I had said to make her so angry. I listened to her vent for about 5-10 seconds, then I didn’t deserve this nonsense. My crime was that I did not meet her height requirements, so I turned and walked away.
    A simple and civil “No thank you” would have been sufficient, but she felt compelled to demean me, because I was not worthy to approach her. That a shorter man, (lower value in her mind), would even think he had a right to approach her much less a chance to date her, was something that had to be addressed right then and there. There was no way was she going to allow this transgression to pass; therefore, I had to be put in my place.

    She thought her status was above me, much like a slave holder looked down upon a slave or a nobleman looked down upon a peasant. To a heightist, they are better simply because they are taller, and those who are of less stature are valued less as human beings. It is as plain and as simple as that. I was not a tall man, so I was not valued. I was from a lower class of men, thus no respect was given because I had no status. Furthermore, what is even more troubling about her is her response time. She didn’t take any time to think. It was instantaneous, like a reflex, an action without a thought. Which begs the question, in what society would it be acceptable for a woman to not only reject a man, but also insult him for attempting to ask her out? Where is her introspect? Where is the self-examination of her behavior? In her mind, none was needed. Unfortunately this is how most women think. The above actions are not just of heightist women but of women in general. And this can be proved by visiting any on-line dating site where women shamelessly state in no uncertain terms the height of men they will date.


  56. It’s no secret that a man’s ego has a powerful pull on him.

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